BOOK REVIEW: Just don’t marry one: interracial dating, marriage, and parenting

After reading a recent book on intercultural marriage, I found myself longing for ‘deeper mentors’ who weren’t just addressing introductory issues to an interracial or intercultural marriage, but the long term questions of life together.  I read the first section of the book, “Foundations for Christian Leaders” years ago, and while I found examinations of biblical foundations, counseling tips, racial misconceptions, and historical examinations of interracial marriages helpful, it only spoke to my mind, not my soul, so I put it down and just picked it up again last week.  I was pleasantly surprised to discover that section 2 “Support for interracial couples and multiracial families” addressed much of what I’d been looking for.

In this section, a variety of well-seasoned veterans speak to issues multiracial individuals and interracial couples face.  With wisdom, graciousness, and honesty, they openly discuss biracial children, family issues, combining cultures, and racial reconciliation.  The authors in this section all do an excellent job of examining the many questions that arise with interracial and inter-cultural relationships.  While the book focuses primarily on interracial relationships, I interchange this term with inter-cultural b/c it also address this dynamic as well.  Clearly, the most thorough experience covered is black-white marriage, but I found much that translated to our experience even though we’re not a black-white couple.

An appendix includes a thorough list of websites, books, support groups, organizations, and research articles for multiracial individuals and families.


1 thought on “BOOK REVIEW: Just don’t marry one: interracial dating, marriage, and parenting”

  1. Thank you for this review. I will pass it along to several friends and family for whom it is relevant and hopefully insightful as well.


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